When I moved to the west coast in 2012 I literally knew no. one.
I am naturally, a very shy, not outgoing personality type. So I really had to step outside my comfort zone in order to:
1. Get a damn Job
2. Make Friends
3. Find Roommates (at least this was me at the time)
"Networking" was a word that sounded like it was for fun people. Or the type of person who randomly talks to strangers while waiting for the 'walk' signal.
So I had to adapt. Here is how I learned to network (and feel free to add to this):
1. Be Yourself
- I know this sounds cheezy, but it works. Like I said, I am more of an introvert and assumed that I wouldn't meet people like me. Wrong! I found just as many people who were on the quieter, shy side that I bonded with quickly because we saw that trait within each other
- Be yourself, but be willing to get uncomfortable too. If you find yourself in a conversation where the topic isn't particularly interesting, or you feel to have nothing to contribute, stick it out. People like being listened to and their appreciation for your eye contact and patience will come back to you - unless the guy is a weirdo
2. Nuggets
- Whether you're engaged in a conversation already or simple eavesdropping, listen for nuggets or buzzwords that can get you in.
- For example, I once was at a nail salon and overheard two women talking about how they were understaffed at their workplace. They were discussing the job title which sounded like something I had been applying for. I waited for the appropriate time to butt in with a big smile and ask if I could inquire about the job. I walked away with both their business cards.
- Nuggets can be non-business related as well. Most people actually prefer not to talk about work, so even if you are not networking for a job, it's better to start the conversation with some light nuggs instead of perhaps the heavy duty stuff.
3. LinkedIn / Informational Interviews
- For those of you looking for career networking, do not discount the power of the almighty internet. Create and LinkedIn profile and find your future boss.
- Just don't start a LinkedIn conversation by saying: "Hi my name is ____ I'd like to have a job now, thanks..." Message your new LinkedIn friend asking if they would have time to give you an "informational interview" aka explain the line of work you are interested in, and if they could answer a few questions via email or phone?
- Best case scenario, they agree to meet with you over coffee (but this may take a few messages), this could lead to either a job or some really good advice
- LinkedIn is career Tinder, so do not be disappointed if someone doesn't respond, and don't harass people, it's creepy. Also, no matter how big the city, people talk.
4. Sometimes, you HAVE to be that Weirdo in the Corner
Yes. It must be done. Depending on how desperate you are.
Yes. I have done it.
Get a book and get to the coffee shop or the wine bar...
- I have done this when I was trying to get a feel for my new neighborhood. At 4pm or so I made my way over to my local watering hole that seemed fairly clear of dingbats on a regular basis. I ordered a glass of wine and ended up chatting with the bar tender who knew the WHOLE scoop of the neighborhood. I literally had one drink and walked away with good info.
If you go this route, bring something with you like a book or laptop. It's your prop in case you need to look cool or escape.
